My 5 Biggest Lessons From 2017


Hello readers,Happy new year!2018 promises to be a great year. You do not need the "new year,new me" cliché , just be a better you. I believe you have learnt some things in the past year and if you employ them well  you can get better. Well,well, I will be sharing with us 5 big lessons I learnt in the year 2017 ( in no particular order )


1) No one owes you anything : It's commonly  said that life is not fair. Well, I have discovered that life is fair to those that are intentional about it. It is up to you to go out there and get what you want. You don't have to wait for someone to dish it out for you because really nobody will . When this 'dishing' doesn't happen, a lot of people get frustrated. No one is going to hand over what you want to you. You basically have to find your way to get it.


2) You can't make anyone do anything for you : What I mean is you can be nice to people,you can be polite ,you can be a great person but you cannot make anyone do anything for you. When you realize this and you are at peace with this fact, it makes a lot of things easy. I mean,you do not get stressed when people behave or do not behave in a certain manner . You do not feel bad when things don't go exactly the way you want or planned it. You have to realize that the only person you can control is YOU.


3) Sometimes you have to walk away from people you love because they are toxic to you : I mean people that are close to you, people that have 'won' a space in your heart and you later realize that they are not good for you .This is because the world does not care who it is that is holding you back ,success does not care.That they are toxic to you does not make them bad people,it only means they do not help you to be your best. Whoever it is you have to walk away from,do so! So you can move forward .


4) Health matters : As a matter of fact, health is a big deal. It does not matter who you are or how much you have,if you do not pay attention to your health you cannot have a good day. It should be your priority of course after your faith. For me,my faith comes first,then my health and family. Yes,health before family because without good health you cannot relate with your family. Make sure you take good care of yourself.


5) Loyalty : Loyalty is really really scarce. You should cherish,nourish the few people who are loyal to you.
Basically,these are the 5 lessons that I learnt this year.
Please Do well to share the lessons you learnt in the year 2017. I look forward to your responses. Do have a great year ahead.




David Ayoola Subair
January,2018.

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3 KEYS TO HAPPINESS

No matter how much you achieve in life, deep down, the ultimate need of every human is to be truly happy. so i want to share with you today 3 tips to increase you happiness levels, so let's get right to it. 

1. Progress = Happiness

Everyday, make some progress in at least one area of your life, no matter how little. If you want to be happy, you have to keep moving forward. There is no stagnation in life, if you aren't going forward, you're going backwards, if you aren't growing you're dying. Now, that seems like a very rash statement but it's the truth, and here's the deal; when you're going forward you'll be happy, when you're moving backwards or regressing, you'll be unhappy. It's that simple.

2. Trade Expectations For Appreciation

Stop expecting things from people. Humans are naturally selfish beings and everybody is really just looking out for their personal interests most of the time, so when you keep expecting special treatment or things from people, you'll keep getting disappointed. But when you learn to appreciate the little things around you, and you learn to focus on the good things and the good people that are in your life right now, you'd be a much happier person.

3. Contribute/give back

There are so many people who have made a lot of money but are still very unhappy. They are extremely miserable, sad grumpy and frustrated. In the end, even if you have all the money and good things in the world, you'd be a sad, miserable and unhappy person if you're not actively contributing to the universe. I mean, just check out any really happy, cheerful person, I can assure you of one thing. They are givers. Some call it philanthropy, some call it leaving a legacy but it all boils down to one word; Contribution. I guess it's why the saying goes; giving is the bounty of life. Just check your own feelings when you do good for somebody, you know that warm feeling that you get, that 'I've done good' feeling. Just keep giving back constantly and you'll be a happy person. That's a promise. 

So those are the 3 tips for happiness that I bring to you today. Hopefully you not only enjoyed reading it but you got good value from it and are willing to share this with someone else who needs to read this. 

Cheers to your happiness. 

I remain your friend, 

David Ayoola Subair. 

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THESE THREE THINGS...

"THESE THREE THINGS" is a compilation of truthful nuggets that could assist in shaping your character and mapping you out. 

Its a short but highly valuable read. Enjoy reading, apply them, and share with a friend. So here we go;

Don't be hasty in these three... Marriage, Business and Travel.

Do not waste these three.... Time, Treasure and Talent.

Like these three; Kindness, Sympathy and Cordiality.

Hate these three; Injustice, Pride and Unfaithfulness.

Love these three; Bravery, Gentility and Affection.

Leave these three; Laziness, Excessive talking and Hurried judgement.

Value these three; Intelligence, Ability and Happiness.

Control these three; Temper, Desire and Tongue.

Preserve These; Good Books, Good deeds and Good friends.


God Read or Not? Let me know what you think in the comments section below. Either way, Thank you for reading. 

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5 SOLID TIPS ON BUILDING YOUR INTEGRITY.

"Most people talk too big and do too little, but people of integrity always do what they say"

 David Ayoola Subair

Being someone of stellar integrity is one f the most desirable things ever. It always feels good to overhear people say of you; that guy/gal is a man or woman of his word As a matter of fact, in my opinion it is the most extraordinary compliment you can ever be paid. whether you're a school prefect, a business person or the president of the united states. It is super important to be a person of integrity. Below I share 5 tips on how to increase your level of integrity over time.

Tip 1. Don't fail in little things; Ever heard the saying; how you do anything is how you do everything? I agree with that say 1000%  Being a person of integrity always starts from the littlest things; remembering to drop the note your boss asked you to drop with the secretary and dropping it on time, being exactly where you say you are, respecting both your time and other peoples time (I mean, if you set the appointment for 10:00 am, don't come swaggering in at 10:05 am thinking to yourself I'm only 5 minutes late, what difference does it make?). Succeeding or failing in  all the little things which we sometimes don't pay much attention to are usually what add up to making you a person of integrity or not. Above all, never promise what you can't deliver.

Tip 2. Never compromised your core principles and values; Don't sell out your values and virtues in pursuit of what you want. In the bible story of Jesus' betrayal, Judas got the money for stabbing the messiah in the back, I assure you, 30 pieces of silver was a sizable fortune back in the day, but Judas ended up taking the money back to the people who gave it to him because he couldn't live with himself for what he had done, however his once-upon-a-time allies refused to collect the money back from him, he then proceeded to throw his fortune away. Why would a man throw away his fortune? Here's why; because like i said earlier, the man couldn't live with himself. Money doesn't mean anything if you've sold out! Now, Judas even after throwing away his fortune, still can't erase what he's done and next thing we know, he went out and hung his worthless self! Don't be like Judas, Never compromised your core principles and values, no matter what.

3. Admit your wrong doings; We all make mistakes and sometimes its hard to admit that we've made an error, sometimes it's for the fear of looking unprofessional and feeling idiotic, other times it may be because of the consequences attached to the error we've made but despite all of these, people of integrity are known to always admit their wrong doings as quickly as possible while being fully ready to deal with whatever consequences might be attached to those errors

4. Dress well, be nice to people and consciously work to keep your name; As soon as the man walked in, the room went silent and all the heads in the room suddenly turned in his direction. Immediately, everybody knew who he was; the secretary remembered him vividly because
he never failed to drop her a card every year on her birthday, the doorman recognized him because he always gave him a smile and a warm greeting whenever he came in for business, the mail boy was so happy to see him as well because he always remembered to say thank you John whenever he delivered a letter to him and today, like every other day that he came by, he looked as important as ever in his well tailored 3 piece stallion black suit, black shirt and red pocket square, red tie, brown belt and brown leather shoes. Thinking about the businessman just described above we can immediately picture the person not only as an important person, but as a well dressed and pleasant human being. Now you don't have to walk around in a 3 piece suit everyday if that's not your style but imagine having this guys dress sense while being a 100% honest person. You would be a highly respected person. In this regard, i want you to also think about how you generally treat people right now and ask yourself; if it was someone else treating me in this manner would I always be happy to see them? If your answer is no, then you have to make some adjustments. Most importantly here however is for you to work consciously on a daily basis to keep your name respected and this is only achievable by making sure you always stick to your core values and principles. Don't get caught up in any shady business

5. Be consistently hardworking; always give your best; These days, most people are looking for the easy way out of everything, they want to cheat the process, but get the results. Just by deciding to be a person who always gives their best, you will place yourself far above most people. This simple decision can sometimes be very hard to live up to, but if you consciously work to make this a part of your lifestyle, then this attribute coupled with all the other tips mentioned above will have you become recognized as a man or woman of stellar integrity.

Thank you for reading and let me know what you agree or disagree with in this article in the comments section below. Also be kind enough to share this with someone else if you got value from it. 

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Happiness Is An Art

Happiness is an art; it's a separate art from money, or travel or love or even success. 

None of the above mentioned things guarantee happiness. Here's a story to illustrate my point; Joe walked into the room and said "Dad, i told you I need 20 dollars! It's important.." Joe and his dad had been through this kind of conversation several times and right now Joe's father wasn't at all in the mood to argue, so he quietly reaches into his pocket, squeezes up a 20 dollar bill in his left hand and throws it at his son And then yells "Here! If you need the darn stuff that bad, just take it and get out of my face!" The man's made almost 4 million dollars this year alone, has a very comfortable lifestyle but the guy's unhappy. He just divorced his wife and is never on good terms with his 19 year old son. I'm pretty sure you reading this can relate to an extent with this story of Joe and his father, I mean, Don't we all pity the father with money but no joy? He studied economics bit he never studied joy. 

Some people have a false belief that more money equals more happiness. However, this is untrue because like I said earlier happiness is a different art form than money, and anyone; poor people, people of modest means, literally anyone can learn how to weave their own happiness with whatever resources they have right now. 

In that spirit, Let me share with you 5 simple tips to help you be much happier starting right now.

1. Save up and treat yourself and family (if you already have one) 

You don't have to buy everything! practice a little self discipline, save up by value, and plan a treat for yourself and your family, you'd come back feeling refreshed and you'd have recharged your happiness-o-meter.

2. Fashion your day the night before. 

When you plan your day the night before, you wake up and immediately have direction, when you have direction you feel purposeful, and when you feel purposeful you'll feel good about yourself, and yes you guessed right! continually feeling good about yourself inevitably makes you a happy fella. 

3. Regularly spend time to do something you love (Just you) 

Regularly take some time off. just spend some time by yourself and power down... No kids around, No husband or wife, no work just spend time with yourself to write, take a long walk, go on a personal vacation, just power down and relax your body and mind you'll be back feeling refreshed and full of joy and enthusiasm.

4. Have a mentor. And celebrate their success while letting it inspire you.  

Having a mentor who's more successful than yourself will inspire you to keep pushing your limits. It'll keep you challenged to constantly achieve more. And when you're constantly achieving more, you'd continually feel good about yourself and your achievements 

5. Ask for God's help. 

If you'll allow me a personal one here. It's to ask for help when you need it. We all have days when we need to come out of our low morale state but just can't on these days, we need a hand to pull us back up on our feet so when you feel down and you definitely will, say a quick prayer and tell God to get you back On Track.

Thanks for reading. Be sure to drop a comment below if you enjoyed this post

Cheers.

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MASTER THE ART OF EXCELLENCE. 4 Simple Ways To Be More Excellent, Starting Today!

Dear Reader, today I'm writing a quick piece on how to become excellent. Whether it's in rendering a service to a customer, planning a date for someone you love or something as simple as putting breakfast together for your family, being a sucker for excellence is what takes you out of merely good to exceptionally great, so quickly, let's dive into 4 things that ANYONE can immediately begin to do in order to become a more excellent person.

1. Pay Attention to Details; It's very true that the smallest details always make the most difference. As long as you're a person that is used to letting the seemingly little things slide, then you won't be an excellent person, however, If you just make this one change by determining right now to always pay attention to the tiniest details no matter how irrelevant it may seem, then I assure you, you're halfway there.

2. Seek Continual Improvement; The first record in the 100 meters for men (athletics) was recognized by the International Association of Athletics Federations, it was Donald Lippincott who set that record at 10.6 seconds in Stockholm, Sweden on July 6, 1912 and became the world's fastest man. Today, the world record is held by Usain Bolts at a 9.58 seconds making Donald Lippincott's record obsolete. Just like that a person can become irrelevant if he does not keep getting better. You just have to keep growing because the standard is always being raised and if you don't keep on improving yourself, you'll be left behind, and if there's one thing I know, its that there's not one thesaurus on this planet wherein behind is a synonym of excellent.

3. Practice Self Discipline; Excellence and discipline go hand in hand. They're like twin brothers born of the same mother. The Logic here is very simple. To be an excellent person you have to be ascetic. You will have to move out of the comforts zones that every man naturally wants to stay in. Remember, there's no shortcut to anywhere worth going. There's always a price to pay and greatness (or in this case, excellence) never goes on sale

4. Have high personal standards; You may not know this, but how you treat a particular area of your life will affect all the other areas of your life. You see, in life, everything matters, and so when you set high personal standards for yourself, it just inevitable that it'll rub off on everything else you do. 

There You Have It. Those Are 4 things You Can Immediately Begin Doing That I Guarantee You Will Help Increase Your Level of Excellence. Hopefully, You'll Start Using Them From Today And  Begin Enjoying The Perks That Come With Being An Excellent Person. Remember to Share This With  A Friend If You Got Value From This Post. Thank You For Reading.

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3 P’s To Focus On In Order To Achieve Your Goals.

The Letter P may be more significant to your success than you imagined. Here are 3 P’s to focus on while you’re on the path to achieving success.

1. P for Patience; you’ve probably heard this before. It takes 10 years to make an overnight success. Successful people may not agree on all the keys to success, but if i had to pick one that they all agree on, this is one I’ll pick. Patience is just so important to have. If you’re going to succeed long term, you’ve just got to keep putting in the work over a long period of time. As you do this you’ll begin to have small successes, a couple of failures, you’d have to learn a lot, you’d win and you’d lose. This process, I call the learning curve and every successful person you know today once had a learning curve. As a matter of fact they still do.

2. P for Persistence; if you’re really serious about succeeding then quitting just can’t be an option. As you already know, if you’re going to succeed big time. It’s going to take a while. you will never be successful if you give up before this time elapses so if you really want to succeed, then persistence is the name of the game, Now, that’s not to say you’ll not feel like quitting cos you definitely will, but when you think about quitting, remember what Nike always says and continue to Just do it.

3. P for Positive; you can’t be a loser in your mind and ever think you’ll achieve success in the physical. Now, this may sounds very spooky but when you think positively most of the time, good things will happen to you most of the time. And hey, don’t press me on why it’s designed that way, I don’t know why... It just is what it is, so instead of asking why, rather just Use the principle in your favor.

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