3 KEYS TO HAPPINESS

No matter how much you achieve in life, deep down, the ultimate need of every human is to be truly happy. so i want to share with you today 3 tips to increase you happiness levels, so let's get right to it. 

1. Progress = Happiness

Everyday, make some progress in at least one area of your life, no matter how little. If you want to be happy, you have to keep moving forward. There is no stagnation in life, if you aren't going forward, you're going backwards, if you aren't growing you're dying. Now, that seems like a very rash statement but it's the truth, and here's the deal; when you're going forward you'll be happy, when you're moving backwards or regressing, you'll be unhappy. It's that simple.

2. Trade Expectations For Appreciation

Stop expecting things from people. Humans are naturally selfish beings and everybody is really just looking out for their personal interests most of the time, so when you keep expecting special treatment or things from people, you'll keep getting disappointed. But when you learn to appreciate the little things around you, and you learn to focus on the good things and the good people that are in your life right now, you'd be a much happier person.

3. Contribute/give back

There are so many people who have made a lot of money but are still very unhappy. They are extremely miserable, sad grumpy and frustrated. In the end, even if you have all the money and good things in the world, you'd be a sad, miserable and unhappy person if you're not actively contributing to the universe. I mean, just check out any really happy, cheerful person, I can assure you of one thing. They are givers. Some call it philanthropy, some call it leaving a legacy but it all boils down to one word; Contribution. I guess it's why the saying goes; giving is the bounty of life. Just check your own feelings when you do good for somebody, you know that warm feeling that you get, that 'I've done good' feeling. Just keep giving back constantly and you'll be a happy person. That's a promise. 

So those are the 3 tips for happiness that I bring to you today. Hopefully you not only enjoyed reading it but you got good value from it and are willing to share this with someone else who needs to read this. 

Cheers to your happiness. 

I remain your friend, 

David Ayoola Subair. 

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THESE THREE THINGS...

"THESE THREE THINGS" is a compilation of truthful nuggets that could assist in shaping your character and mapping you out. 

Its a short but highly valuable read. Enjoy reading, apply them, and share with a friend. So here we go;

Don't be hasty in these three... Marriage, Business and Travel.

Do not waste these three.... Time, Treasure and Talent.

Like these three; Kindness, Sympathy and Cordiality.

Hate these three; Injustice, Pride and Unfaithfulness.

Love these three; Bravery, Gentility and Affection.

Leave these three; Laziness, Excessive talking and Hurried judgement.

Value these three; Intelligence, Ability and Happiness.

Control these three; Temper, Desire and Tongue.

Preserve These; Good Books, Good deeds and Good friends.


God Read or Not? Let me know what you think in the comments section below. Either way, Thank you for reading. 

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5 SOLID TIPS ON BUILDING YOUR INTEGRITY.

"Most people talk too big and do too little, but people of integrity always do what they say"

 David Ayoola Subair

Being someone of stellar integrity is one f the most desirable things ever. It always feels good to overhear people say of you; that guy/gal is a man or woman of his word As a matter of fact, in my opinion it is the most extraordinary compliment you can ever be paid. whether you're a school prefect, a business person or the president of the united states. It is super important to be a person of integrity. Below I share 5 tips on how to increase your level of integrity over time.

Tip 1. Don't fail in little things; Ever heard the saying; how you do anything is how you do everything? I agree with that say 1000%  Being a person of integrity always starts from the littlest things; remembering to drop the note your boss asked you to drop with the secretary and dropping it on time, being exactly where you say you are, respecting both your time and other peoples time (I mean, if you set the appointment for 10:00 am, don't come swaggering in at 10:05 am thinking to yourself I'm only 5 minutes late, what difference does it make?). Succeeding or failing in  all the little things which we sometimes don't pay much attention to are usually what add up to making you a person of integrity or not. Above all, never promise what you can't deliver.

Tip 2. Never compromised your core principles and values; Don't sell out your values and virtues in pursuit of what you want. In the bible story of Jesus' betrayal, Judas got the money for stabbing the messiah in the back, I assure you, 30 pieces of silver was a sizable fortune back in the day, but Judas ended up taking the money back to the people who gave it to him because he couldn't live with himself for what he had done, however his once-upon-a-time allies refused to collect the money back from him, he then proceeded to throw his fortune away. Why would a man throw away his fortune? Here's why; because like i said earlier, the man couldn't live with himself. Money doesn't mean anything if you've sold out! Now, Judas even after throwing away his fortune, still can't erase what he's done and next thing we know, he went out and hung his worthless self! Don't be like Judas, Never compromised your core principles and values, no matter what.

3. Admit your wrong doings; We all make mistakes and sometimes its hard to admit that we've made an error, sometimes it's for the fear of looking unprofessional and feeling idiotic, other times it may be because of the consequences attached to the error we've made but despite all of these, people of integrity are known to always admit their wrong doings as quickly as possible while being fully ready to deal with whatever consequences might be attached to those errors

4. Dress well, be nice to people and consciously work to keep your name; As soon as the man walked in, the room went silent and all the heads in the room suddenly turned in his direction. Immediately, everybody knew who he was; the secretary remembered him vividly because
he never failed to drop her a card every year on her birthday, the doorman recognized him because he always gave him a smile and a warm greeting whenever he came in for business, the mail boy was so happy to see him as well because he always remembered to say thank you John whenever he delivered a letter to him and today, like every other day that he came by, he looked as important as ever in his well tailored 3 piece stallion black suit, black shirt and red pocket square, red tie, brown belt and brown leather shoes. Thinking about the businessman just described above we can immediately picture the person not only as an important person, but as a well dressed and pleasant human being. Now you don't have to walk around in a 3 piece suit everyday if that's not your style but imagine having this guys dress sense while being a 100% honest person. You would be a highly respected person. In this regard, i want you to also think about how you generally treat people right now and ask yourself; if it was someone else treating me in this manner would I always be happy to see them? If your answer is no, then you have to make some adjustments. Most importantly here however is for you to work consciously on a daily basis to keep your name respected and this is only achievable by making sure you always stick to your core values and principles. Don't get caught up in any shady business

5. Be consistently hardworking; always give your best; These days, most people are looking for the easy way out of everything, they want to cheat the process, but get the results. Just by deciding to be a person who always gives their best, you will place yourself far above most people. This simple decision can sometimes be very hard to live up to, but if you consciously work to make this a part of your lifestyle, then this attribute coupled with all the other tips mentioned above will have you become recognized as a man or woman of stellar integrity.

Thank you for reading and let me know what you agree or disagree with in this article in the comments section below. Also be kind enough to share this with someone else if you got value from it. 

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Happiness Is An Art

Happiness is an art; it's a separate art from money, or travel or love or even success. 

None of the above mentioned things guarantee happiness. Here's a story to illustrate my point; Joe walked into the room and said "Dad, i told you I need 20 dollars! It's important.." Joe and his dad had been through this kind of conversation several times and right now Joe's father wasn't at all in the mood to argue, so he quietly reaches into his pocket, squeezes up a 20 dollar bill in his left hand and throws it at his son And then yells "Here! If you need the darn stuff that bad, just take it and get out of my face!" The man's made almost 4 million dollars this year alone, has a very comfortable lifestyle but the guy's unhappy. He just divorced his wife and is never on good terms with his 19 year old son. I'm pretty sure you reading this can relate to an extent with this story of Joe and his father, I mean, Don't we all pity the father with money but no joy? He studied economics bit he never studied joy. 

Some people have a false belief that more money equals more happiness. However, this is untrue because like I said earlier happiness is a different art form than money, and anyone; poor people, people of modest means, literally anyone can learn how to weave their own happiness with whatever resources they have right now. 

In that spirit, Let me share with you 5 simple tips to help you be much happier starting right now.

1. Save up and treat yourself and family (if you already have one) 

You don't have to buy everything! practice a little self discipline, save up by value, and plan a treat for yourself and your family, you'd come back feeling refreshed and you'd have recharged your happiness-o-meter.

2. Fashion your day the night before. 

When you plan your day the night before, you wake up and immediately have direction, when you have direction you feel purposeful, and when you feel purposeful you'll feel good about yourself, and yes you guessed right! continually feeling good about yourself inevitably makes you a happy fella. 

3. Regularly spend time to do something you love (Just you) 

Regularly take some time off. just spend some time by yourself and power down... No kids around, No husband or wife, no work just spend time with yourself to write, take a long walk, go on a personal vacation, just power down and relax your body and mind you'll be back feeling refreshed and full of joy and enthusiasm.

4. Have a mentor. And celebrate their success while letting it inspire you.  

Having a mentor who's more successful than yourself will inspire you to keep pushing your limits. It'll keep you challenged to constantly achieve more. And when you're constantly achieving more, you'd continually feel good about yourself and your achievements 

5. Ask for God's help. 

If you'll allow me a personal one here. It's to ask for help when you need it. We all have days when we need to come out of our low morale state but just can't on these days, we need a hand to pull us back up on our feet so when you feel down and you definitely will, say a quick prayer and tell God to get you back On Track.

Thanks for reading. Be sure to drop a comment below if you enjoyed this post

Cheers.

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MASTER THE ART OF EXCELLENCE. 4 Simple Ways To Be More Excellent, Starting Today!

Dear Reader, today I'm writing a quick piece on how to become excellent. Whether it's in rendering a service to a customer, planning a date for someone you love or something as simple as putting breakfast together for your family, being a sucker for excellence is what takes you out of merely good to exceptionally great, so quickly, let's dive into 4 things that ANYONE can immediately begin to do in order to become a more excellent person.

1. Pay Attention to Details; It's very true that the smallest details always make the most difference. As long as you're a person that is used to letting the seemingly little things slide, then you won't be an excellent person, however, If you just make this one change by determining right now to always pay attention to the tiniest details no matter how irrelevant it may seem, then I assure you, you're halfway there.

2. Seek Continual Improvement; The first record in the 100 meters for men (athletics) was recognized by the International Association of Athletics Federations, it was Donald Lippincott who set that record at 10.6 seconds in Stockholm, Sweden on July 6, 1912 and became the world's fastest man. Today, the world record is held by Usain Bolts at a 9.58 seconds making Donald Lippincott's record obsolete. Just like that a person can become irrelevant if he does not keep getting better. You just have to keep growing because the standard is always being raised and if you don't keep on improving yourself, you'll be left behind, and if there's one thing I know, its that there's not one thesaurus on this planet wherein behind is a synonym of excellent.

3. Practice Self Discipline; Excellence and discipline go hand in hand. They're like twin brothers born of the same mother. The Logic here is very simple. To be an excellent person you have to be ascetic. You will have to move out of the comforts zones that every man naturally wants to stay in. Remember, there's no shortcut to anywhere worth going. There's always a price to pay and greatness (or in this case, excellence) never goes on sale

4. Have high personal standards; You may not know this, but how you treat a particular area of your life will affect all the other areas of your life. You see, in life, everything matters, and so when you set high personal standards for yourself, it just inevitable that it'll rub off on everything else you do. 

There You Have It. Those Are 4 things You Can Immediately Begin Doing That I Guarantee You Will Help Increase Your Level of Excellence. Hopefully, You'll Start Using Them From Today And  Begin Enjoying The Perks That Come With Being An Excellent Person. Remember to Share This With  A Friend If You Got Value From This Post. Thank You For Reading.

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3 P’s To Focus On In Order To Achieve Your Goals.

The Letter P may be more significant to your success than you imagined. Here are 3 P’s to focus on while you’re on the path to achieving success.

1. P for Patience; you’ve probably heard this before. It takes 10 years to make an overnight success. Successful people may not agree on all the keys to success, but if i had to pick one that they all agree on, this is one I’ll pick. Patience is just so important to have. If you’re going to succeed long term, you’ve just got to keep putting in the work over a long period of time. As you do this you’ll begin to have small successes, a couple of failures, you’d have to learn a lot, you’d win and you’d lose. This process, I call the learning curve and every successful person you know today once had a learning curve. As a matter of fact they still do.

2. P for Persistence; if you’re really serious about succeeding then quitting just can’t be an option. As you already know, if you’re going to succeed big time. It’s going to take a while. you will never be successful if you give up before this time elapses so if you really want to succeed, then persistence is the name of the game, Now, that’s not to say you’ll not feel like quitting cos you definitely will, but when you think about quitting, remember what Nike always says and continue to Just do it.

3. P for Positive; you can’t be a loser in your mind and ever think you’ll achieve success in the physical. Now, this may sounds very spooky but when you think positively most of the time, good things will happen to you most of the time. And hey, don’t press me on why it’s designed that way, I don’t know why... It just is what it is, so instead of asking why, rather just Use the principle in your favor.

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4 Simple Ways To Live Well

The Sad Truth is That Most People Don't Live Well. They constantly wonder; how can one break free of a routine lifestyle of just getting through each day, struggling through each day, going to work everyday, feeling extremely gloomy. Most people go to work, come back home, they eat, rest a little, watch  T.v, go to bed and then wake up the next morning to do it all again. Here's the deal though, Your Life doesn't have to be drab and void of fun. Below, I'll Share 4 easy things that help me add spice to my life and work, in the hopes that if you really take the time to plan and deliberately input these 4 things in your life, you'll start enjoying life much more.

1. Workout Regularly

I know you've probably heard this one before. But hearing, Knowing and Doing are 3 very different things. You see, when you exercise your body, it releases Endorphins which have been nick named 'feel good chemicals' in your brain.

As a result you feel much more positive and happy. I prefer working out in the mornings ( I mean what better way is there to start your day right?) However, there's no strict rule about when or how often to work out, some people work out 3 days a week, some 5 days a week, others work out everyday. Just pick what works for you and STICK WITH IT. That's the important part. There's a plus too, you'll feel and look healthier and you'll live longer. So if you don't have a strict workout plan, i suggest you find something that works for you and start doing it. 

2. Have Times To Do Good For Other People.

Have you ever helped a blind person across the street? OR Have you ever held the door for someone on an elevator? Or just done something really nice for someone out of the blues. How'd you feel afterwards? Yeah. That's right. You had an amazing warm feeling inside of you, an 'I've done good' kind of feeling. You see when you constantly do good for others, more often than not you'll be a happy person. (Just ask Oprah Winfrey duh!) Now you don't have to be Rich, Famous and Powerful to do good things for other people. Start where you are. Set aside a small percentage of your income and give it to someone who really truly needs it. Personally, As a rule. I keep aside 10 percent of whatever i earn and give that out. That's my little way of being a blessing to the world. Someone once  said 'when you give, you're really not giving to others, but to yourself'. I guess that explains the warm feeling you get on the inside. You give yourself more joy by helping others and the best part is that it doesn't always have to be money that you give. Even if you don't have any money to give, then give your time, volunteer to help serve food at a homeless shelter or volunteer to help out in church or go to an orphanage and just sit with the kids; smile at them, play with them. It makes a difference. So, set a goal today to start doing good things for others at regular intervals (say, once or twice a month not because you'll get anything in return but because giving is a reward in itself)

3. Do nice things for yourself.

Do you have set times when its all about you? You have to. Its not being selfish but if you don't do things that you like to do. You won't be very happy. It's just how life works. If you want to be happy, Do things or be around people that will make you happy. Deliberately plan activities for yourself that you know you like to do. You should have at least one day a week when you go have fun by yourself or with your family. Now, when i say you should have at least one day, please know that it doesn't have to be the whole day. In fact, It Could be as little as an hour of that day, but guess what? Let's say you like golf and you decide to start to play it for 2 hrs every Saturday because you really love it (When you play golf you feel like you're in your personal heaven) I'm telling you, you'll start to think of golf as a reward for doing your best throughout the week, and even if u don't like your job very much You'll get through that hard week smiling because you know that once you do. You'll have an amazing time on the golf course (maybe even the best 2 hrs of your week). But if you go to a job that you hate throughout the week and still don't have any time for yourself on the weekends. Now that's a hell of a life! See the difference? Now someone might say; but I have so many commitments to take care of during the weekends. (By the way, please note that i'm only using weekends as an example. Your me tine could be Wednesdays nights or even Monday afternoons. Its totally up to you) But we all have commitments, some more than others i understand but it doesn't really matter. The answer is to make your 'me time' a commitment too; a commitment that you'll stick to, no matter what. If you do this, not only will it improve the quality of your life, it'll also strengthen your commitment in other areas. That's a promise.


4. Never Ever Stop growing.

Humans were designed to be achievers. Its why we have so many people who did some great things in the past but then began to rest on their laurels, they stopped dead in their tracks, reveling over their past achievements rather than going out to conquer new mountains. As a result they became unproductive, sad, broke or even sick. If you don't produce to your max, you wouldn't feel good about yourself. So the question should be; How does one produce to their max? The answer is simple. By continually growing as a person. Jim Rohn says it best; "To achieve more, you must first become more". You become more when you study. Study books, audios, videos; any materials related to your field. Learn all you can, then, apply what you learn. Review your work then correct the errors. Learn some more, and then repeat the whole process. That how you achieve more. And.... I'm pretty sure I don't need to tell you that when you achieve more you become a happier person.

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